If you have ever done any online dating you will notice that all the profiles start to sound the same eventually.
I’m an easy-going, outgoing, and spontaneous person. I enjoy time at the lake, and skiing. I love to travel to exotic locations. I enjoy a night out as much as I enjoy a night in watching Netflix.
While all of that sounds good (if you are into that sort of thing), it isn’t who most people really are. I know it isn’t me. My honest profile would look a lot more like this:
We sell ourselves to the lowest common denominator hoping to attract a large number of people that will get you the most dates. Problem is if you are selling the best version of yourself (that barely exists on your best day) then when you go out and aren’t this pristine version of yourself, you end up wasting a lot of make-up to go on dates with people that don’t compliment your life.
If I could be honest in my profile, this is what it would probably look like. I know I’m a great catch. As I mention, I have my shit together – I have a great place, a nice car, a good job, great friends and family. I haven’t been married, I have no kids and no serious baggage. At 32, that’s what we call a catch! Not to mention, I’m intelligent, have a sharp wit, and am actually a very caring, kind person.
Now granted, all that awesomeness comes at a price. I’m stubborn, and can be bossy, and I am a bit of a control freak and I can’t stand not having a plan.
The thought of having such honest profiles is scary because, at that point, we are showing all the flaws that come with all the good. Who wants to date a control freak? No one. Who wants to date someone that literally cannot handle spontaneous adventures? Almost no one.
Would honest online dating profiles help cut the crap and make the search easier or would it only drive us further into depression because of the constant rejection? I don’t know the answer. I would love to only date people that understand me, and all my flaws from the get-go. But I guess that’s really what dating is all about – getting passed the bleached, sanitized version and seeing all the flaws in the nooks and crannies that we prefer the world not see.